What if the story didn’t start with you?
You’ve done the work. You’re self-aware. You’ve changed, grown and looked at yourself deeply.
But some patterns keep showing up in your relationships, money, success, body, and the responsibilities you carry.
Not Mine to Carry is a 30-day ancestral challenge to investigate your family line, recognise what may have been passed down, and start understanding what you’re still carrying today.
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You’re here because something isn't shifting.
You understand yourself better than ever, and you’ve questioned your beliefs, changed your behaviours, worked on your mindset and looked at your past.
Yet some things still don’t shift or make sense.
They could be showing up as:
- repeating relationship patterns,
- lack of money or scarcity patterns
- success that's always out of reach
- or the responsibility you automatically take on for everyone else
You may understand what’s happening, but still not know why it keeps happening.
Maybe you’ve been looking for the answer in your own story, when part of that story started long before you.
What if YOU'RE the cycle breaker in your family line?
Have you ever noticed the same patterns running through generations?
Relationship breakdowns that keep repeating.
Money made, lost, made and lost again.
Abuse, violence, loss or misfortune appearing throughout the family story.
Generations who lived through poverty, hunger or scarcity, while you still struggle with having, keeping or trusting there will be enough.
At some point, someone starts asking why.
What happened before me?
What was passed down?
What am I still carrying?
Maybe that someone is you.
YES, I'M READY TO START →
She finally has somewhere to look
“I’ve known for a while that there are things I’m carrying that don’t feel like me, but I haven’t known how to find where they came from. This has given me somewhere to actually start looking and identify what’s there, rather than just knowing something doesn’t feel right.”
Sheena, New Zealand
You can’t change a pattern you can't see
Not Mine to Carry guides you to start investigating your family line.
You’ll look at the people who came before you, what they lived through, the patterns and responsibilities that followed, and where those threads may be showing up in your life today.
Not to blame - that's not helpful.
But to see what you couldn’t see before.
And decide where your work needs to begin.
It’s time to investigate your family line
Not Mine to Carry gives you a structured place to start.
Over 30 days, you’ll look back through your lineage, explore what your ancestors lived through and start identifying the patterns, trauma and responsibilities that may have travelled through your family.
This is where you start connecting the dots.
How it works
WEEK 1
Identify the Pattern
You will start with what’s happening now. Identify the patterns that keep repeating and what you want to investigate and understand deeper.
WEEK 2
The Lineage Map
You will go back through your family line. Explore the events, trauma, relationships, behaviours and survival patterns within your family story.
WEEK 3
Investigate the Threads
Look at what you’ve uncovered: what's repeated, what stands out, the gaps and what can’t you quite make sense of yet?
WEEK 4
Build Your Ancestral Map
Bring your discoveries together in a clear ancestral map you can keep building.
Want to go deeper? Bring it to me and we’ll explore where to begin.
"It makes a huge subject feel structured
“When you first look at your whole family line, it feels like there’s so much to go through. But once you start mapping it and get into the rhythm, it becomes really simple. Having it all there in front of you gives you something you can keep coming back to and building on.”
Helen, Western Australia
This is only the beginning..
After 30 days, you won’t just know more about your family history.
You’ll have your own Ancestral Map showing what you’ve uncovered, the patterns you’ve noticed, the questions that remain and where you may want to look deeper.
Keep building it. Keep investigating it.
Or bring it to me and let’s look at what comes.
This is the perfect tool to identify what is not yours to carry. The real work begins in your steps afterwards.
This challenge is for women who...
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feel exhausted carrying the weight of everyone and their else’s expectations
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overthink everything and still don’t trust themselves
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are stuck in repeating patterns they can’t explain
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want depth, safety, and real tools not just theory
- know there's something deeper but can't quite put your finger on it
- want to explore your genealogical history and inherited trauma
If you’re ready to finally put down what isn’t yours, this is where you start.
What This Challenge Is (and Isn’t)
This is real work. It’s structured, guided, and safe but you’ll still need to show up and do it.
What it is:
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A 30 day container with clear steps and feedback
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A space where you can explore your genealogical history and stories that maybe impacting the trauma and patterns you carry today
- Practical exercises, research focussed, intuitive and trauma informed
- Create a personal action plan you can work from
What it isn’t:
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A quick fix to ancestral work
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Surface level or “just think positive”
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Avoiding accountability and responsibility
Your #30 Day Challenge Investment
$39
Your 30-day Not Mine to Carry challenge includes:
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4 weekly Masterclasses to guide your journey
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Self paced, online
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Weekly research + reflection work
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Your Ancestral Map + action plan
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A place to ask questions as you work through the challenge
Want my eyes on what you've uncovered?
And if you reach a point where you've gathered the information but aren't sure what you're looking at, you'll have the option to bring your Ancestral Map into a private session with me.
We'll look at what you've found, where you're stuck and where your deeper work may need to begin.
“This immediately made me think beyond my own family line. I started questioning the influence of my in-laws and step-family too, and how those family dynamics may have impacted me. It opened up a much bigger picture of what I want to investigate.”
Dawn, Mauritius
Why I can guide you through this work
MEDIUM | TEACHER OF PERSONAL EVOLUTION & SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT | COACH + MENTOR
Hello there, I'm Sunita
I’ve spent over two decades guiding women through their personal growth and spiritual development, combining mediumship, psychic insight, somatic tools, and coaching to look beyond what's happening on the surface.
I’ve worked with women who know there’s something deeper beneath the patterns they keep experiencing.
Because sometimes the story in front of you isn’t the whole story.
We've explored repeated relationship breakdowns, abuse and violence within their family line, patterns around money and business, loss, scarcity, responsibility and experiences that seem to echo through generations.
I don’t approach ancestral work from the belief that everything happening in your life must have come from an ancestor.
We investigate.
We look at what you know. We look at what happened in your family.
We ask better questions.
I created Not Mine to Carry because you don’t need to begin this work by having all the answers.
You need somewhere to start looking.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I don’t know all of my family history?
Can I ask questions as I go?
Is this live or self-paced?
How much time will I need?
What if I can’t find a connection?
What if I uncover something difficult?
Will I clear my ancestral patterns in 30 days?
What happens after the 30 days?
You don’t need to keep carrying what was never yours.
Maybe you're the one who finally looks ends the cycle.
You can keep trying to understand everything through the story of your own life.
Or you can start asking what happened before you.
If you’re ready to investigate your family line, start here.
START THE 30 DAY CHALLENGE HERE →