#1 Why We All Feel Lost Before We Find Ourselves

"There was a time I thought I had it all figured out… until everything fell apart."

We all have those moments when we think we’ve got life all figured out—until something shifts, and we realise we’re lost. Maybe it’s a breakup, a job change, or something deeper that shakes us to our core. But what if I told you that being lost is not a failure? In fact, it’s a necessary part of the journey.

The moment I realised I wasn’t as “together” as I thought, and how that moment of disillusionment was the very thing that started me on the path to transformation. If you’ve ever felt like you were stuck or questioning everything, this blog is for you.

The Moment When Everything Fell Apart

You know, there was a time when I felt like I had it all figured out—my life, my relationships, my work. Everything seemed so perfect from the outside. But the truth? I was hiding from myself. I was living on autopilot, pretending I had everything under control. But it wasn’t until everything fell apart that I started to see the truth.

For me, this moment of realisation came when I had to face some harsh truths about my life. I had built a version of myself based on expectations—expectations from family, society, and even my own inner critic. But none of that aligned with my true self. When it all came crashing down, I had no choice but to take a deeper look. This is where the real growth began.

Why We Feel Lost: The Superficiality of Success

So often, we’re taught that if we follow the rules—get the job, get the house, get the accolades—we’ll be happy. But what happens when you achieve all those things and still feel empty? For so many of us, the feeling of being “lost” comes not because we don’t know the next step to take, but because we’ve been chasing the wrong things.

I’ve been there. I’ve worked hard for success, only to feel like I was still missing something—like the outer success didn’t match up with the inner fulfilment I was craving.

The feeling of being lost often comes from realising that success, as defined by society, doesn’t bring you peace. It’s not about more stuff or more accomplishments; it’s about inner alignment. When you don’t feel aligned with your true self, no amount of success can fill that void.

• Reflection Prompt: What’s something you’ve achieved that, deep down, didn’t bring you the fulfilment you expected?

The Power of Awareness: Acknowledging Your Feelings

The first step to transformation is awareness. For so long, I didn’t know that I was living on autopilot. I was stuck in a cycle of avoiding my true feelings and not allowing myself to truly feel. That’s where the awareness phase comes in.

Awareness doesn’t always feel good. In fact, it’s uncomfortable and painful. But without it, we can’t change. To move forward, we must accept and acknowledge the parts of ourselves that we’ve been hiding from. It’s easy to stay stuck, refusing to see what’s uncomfortable. I know that, because I did it for years.

But once I started allowing myself to feel the pain of my losses, my failures, and my disappointments, I could finally start to heal. Acceptance is the key to moving forward.

• Reflection Prompt: What part of yourself have you been avoiding? What happens when you finally acknowledge it?

Breaking Free from Old Patterns: The Inner Struggle

As I started digging deeper into my life, I realised that the patterns that kept me stuck weren’t just random. They were deeply ingrained in my mindset and emotional programming. I had been stuck in patterns of fear, procrastination, and avoiding what scared me. I kept waiting for things to change, without realizing that I needed to change first.

The inner struggle was real. Every time I tried to move forward, I was pulled back by the fear of the unknown. I didn’t trust myself. I didn’t trust my decisions. I needed constant validation from others to confirm that I was on the right path.

But as I continued my journey, I realised that true empowerment comes from within. We can’t rely on others to validate us. We need to trust ourselves, believe in our abilities, and make decisions based on our true values, not on what others expect of us.

• Reflection Prompt: What would it look like if you trusted yourself more? How would it change your life?

Surrendering to the Process: Embracing Uncertainty

One of the hardest lessons I learned on this journey was learning to surrender. Surrender doesn’t mean giving up; it means accepting that you don’t have all the answers and that’s okay. We’re conditioned to think that we must have control over every aspect of our lives. But the truth is, life is full of unknowns.

I had to learn how to trust the process, even when things felt out of control. And trust me, that’s a scary place to be. But once I surrendered, I started to see the beauty in the unknown. Surrendering allows space for growth and change, and when you let go of the need for certainty, you open yourself up to limitless possibilities.

• Reflection Prompt: Where in your life could you benefit from surrendering control?

How to Move Through Feeling Lost: The Power of Small Steps

If you’re feeling lost right now, know this: It’s not the end. It’s just the beginning of something greater. The trick is to take one small step at a time. You don’t need to have everything figured out right now. You just need to take the next right step.

For me, it started with small shifts in my mindset. I began by asking myself, “What’s the one thing I can do today that will move me closer to my true self?” It wasn’t about taking huge leaps. It was about making small decisions that felt aligned with my true values.

• Step 1: Embrace the unknown. Trust that being lost is part of the journey.
• Step 2: Shift your mindset. Instead of focusing on what’s not working, focus on what you can control.
• Step 3: Take one small action. One small step leads to the next, and before you know it, you’re moving forward.
• Reflection Prompt: What small step can you take today to start your journey toward alignment?

Believe That There’s Always More..

If you’re feeling lost right now, it’s okay. It’s not a sign of failure; it’s a sign of transformation. You’re shedding old layers of yourself, and that’s a powerful thing. There’s always more to discover within yourself, and this feeling of being lost is just the beginning of a new chapter in your journey.

So, embrace the discomfort. Surrender to the process. And trust that, even though you may feel lost, you are exactly where you need to be for your growth to unfold.

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With love, Sunita